Guest Post: “Be the Light” — YES!

I met Camille and her husband too last year when one of their son’s played on the soccer team my wife was coaching (and two of our kids played on, too).

Since then we’ve stayed in touch via social media, and we cross paths around town from time to time too.

With that as backdrop, I saw this post from her the other day and immediately thought, “Half Full!” — so I asked her if I could share this little reflection on my blog, and she generously agreed.

ENJOY!, and BE THE LIGHT.

Be a light in someone’s life. The world kind of sucks ☹️ right now. Someone told me the other day that they had to Google how to talk to your kids about mass shootings! 😮 This is sadly our reality.

This is also my motivation for SPREADING POSITIVITY in my  world and coaching a group of people who want change, whether it’s change in their mindset, change in their lifestyle, change in their habits, change in their body or change in their relationships with themselves and others.

I coach not because I have extra time in my life. As a working Mama of 3 👦🏻👦🏻👧🏻, I don’t have a lot of time so I make time. I wake up early, maybe skip some tv shows and find those pockets of time. I coach because I, too, need the positivity generated from others.

Life is hard. ☹️ But what choice do we have?🤷🏻‍♀️ Do we just be negative all the time and spend our days wallowing in what we don’t have and what we want different? Results come from action!

Positivity attracts positivity. 😊+☺️ I’ve had a rough week and I relied on my group to get me through it and I relied on myself to focus on my blessings, my children, my marriage, and my health.

Be a light in someone’s life.

“If you want to give light to others YOU have to glow yourself!”

#strongasamother #strongertogether #momoftwoboysandagirl#workingmomsrock #workingmomslife #struggleisreal #morningmeltdown100#transformation #mindsetchange #positivevibesonly #thankful #gratitude#youarestrong #youareabadass #personaldevelopmentquotes #shinebright#sparkle #coachinglife #lovelife #embraceliving #smilemore #runningmom#fivesecondrule #leadbyexample #changeforchange #yougotafriendinme #accountabilitycoach #smilemore

Find more of this goodstuff Camille puts out in the world — her Instagram handle is:   @coachcamillepa

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“Stay Curious”

A simple phrase that came to mind this past week when my wife and I took the kids for one last before-school adventure: a day-trip to the Monterey Bay Aquarium.

The weather was nice, the drive was pleasant, the pace relaxed as we strolled down to the aquarium, and wandered from display to display. The Monterey Bay Aquarium is truly a world-class facility with amazing exhibits, a ton of learning opportunities, magnificent colors and collages of images to excite and inspire. It’s a GREAT learning environment.

I kept thinking again and again, how important the lessons are, learning about the massive and diverse world under the oceans’ surface, and how much I want my kids to appreciate and absorb those lessons. It seems urgent to me. But of course it does; I’m an adult; I’m a middle-age dude experiencing these things as a parent. Our kids are just…kids.

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My salvation in these moments? Sparks of inspiration our kids experience now, they’ll carry with them through their lives. At least that’s my hope.

And how do they do that? STAY CURIOUS.

Another good example?

Just the other day I found something that made me curious. It was of all things, the title of a song I’ve heard many times from a band I’ve loved for decades.

“Cygnus X-1”. I love the song. But I don’t know that name refers to.

I looked it up. It’s the name of a black hole in space. “Whoa”, I thought. I had no idea. And that had me thinking about astronomy and physics and the universe. There I was, late at night, wondering.

Cygnus X-1.

STAY CURIOUS.

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Slow Start

Sometimes it’s a good thing. A slow start. Often that’s how things get going.

In sports, you’ll see athletes of all kinds warming up so when the competition begins, they are closer to capability, able to go full speed from the start.

In life otherwise it’s similar: the earlier we get going into the day, the easier it is to ramp up and perform at the necessary level. At home, at school, at work, pretty much everywhere, this simple reality rings true.

And as much as we focus often on our performance, on our to-do list, on the tasks for the day or the project, sometimes it’s a good idea to focus on the start itself. And sometimes it’s a good idea to just let it unfold. No firm intent beyond letting it be; maybe there’s a goal beyond, maybe not really.

Sometimes, just let the day be what it will be.

Bits and Pieces

Lots of life is in bits and pieces.

The good, the satisfaction, the happiness, the chores, the struggles, the successes, the failures.

Take it easy. If success or victory are not immediate, don’t dismay.

Enjoy when it’s good, persevere when it’s tough.

Make the most of the bits and pieces.

Everyday.

Streak

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I’ve considered this topic in various forms at different times in my life.

It’s the opposite of a slump, if you consider the context applied in
various instances of sport, for example: in baseball, a hitting streak; in
American football, a touchdown streak; any sport in general, wins in a
row, etc.

The idea that one can do something repeatedly and with success.
that’s a streak.

It’s the opposite of a slump. It means you’re in the groove, making
things happen, hitting on all cylinders, producing close to full power
and capacity, doing more good.

A well known and influential current voice in business and culture
here in the states is Seth Godin. He’s got a tone of good insights and
shares them through many channels, including a blog he’s been doing
for a long while, and publishing daily on for now 11 years.

Another voice that’s been out there for a long time is that of Fred
Wilson, who also happens to be a venture capitalist. He brings a lot of
insight to the table in all facets, including as a blogger. He’s been on a
daily posting run for more than 16 years now.

I share these two examples, and I have before too in this blog, because
I aspire to bring some level of positive influence to the world in similar
fashion.

And so I’m just putting it out there, so it’s in words: this blog is going
to pick up the pace, getting more good into words, and out in the
world.

Can I get a streak going?

As Seth puts so well, “once a commitment is made to a streak, the question shifts from, “should I blog tomorrow,” to, “what will tomorrow’s blog say?””

Proof is in the pudding. Let’s see how it goes.

Oh, and by the way…

Seth’s blog found HERE.

and…

Fred’s blog found HERE.

Both? GOOD.

You’re Not Dumb

[image credit, Barenaked Ladies album cover, “Stunt”]

My kids tell me that “dumb” is a bad word and we shouldn’t use it. I understand that.

Whether your five or fifteen or fifty-two, feeling dumb doesn’t feel good. Ever. And calling someone else dumb. Not very nice at all.

Here’s the thing.

Dumb.

The dictionary says it means “lacking intelligence or good judgment; stupid; dull-witted.”

Not a very nice depiction of someone at all. Sometimes true, of course; sometimes folks tend
to exhibit these traits. Sometimes we all feel like we don’t quite get it.
Sometimes something is just missing from the equation. We can’t figure it out.

And the fact of the matter is, that’s ok.

You’re not going to understand everything right off the bat. You’re not going to have
the same depth of knowledge of everyone around you all the time. But sometimes you will. or you’re sorta close.

And sometimes you might start off on the low end, but then with effort and help and time
you’ll get better. You’ll understand more. Even if the topic at hand isn’t necessarily your bailiwick.

Lately I’ve been feeling pretty dumb from time to time. I’ve had a fair amount of struggles these last couple of years, both personal and professional.

It takes effort and patience and time to cope and overcome. And often times, some help from others too. On my side, though I definitely still have periods when it’s hard, I’ve gotten better.

And if you’re struggling, so can you. You can get better too.

Not to say we’re all of the same intellect. We’re not. And some people think more slowly, and some people don’t have the same knack and capacity as is the average or that of the super intelligent.

But I’ll say this: from my vantage point, a person is not inherently and statically and forever stuck in one place mentally.

We humans have been around a long time, and part of the reason is that we can adapt. And we do adapt.

I’ve made some adjustments that have helped. Alot, in some cases.

It’s up to each of us to make the effort, if we care to. And I’d say you should care to.

Keep trying.

Get better.

And hear this voice whisper in your ear, “You’re not dumb.”

 

 

Tweet to Blog Post, More GOOD

Tweet to Blog Post, tiny to a bit more.

What to do, what to make? Expand. What to say, what to add? Not just a RT Guy. 🙂

Model The Man Lin-Manuel Miranda, “GDay, GNight”, find nugget of good; then expand, create, thrive and drive on the energy; then share it. So much opportunity.

We choose each day, each hour even, what to do. What to do with the time we have?

One fundamental question might be, “Do we create, or do we simply respond?”

Most often we have to do both at some point.

The central question always is, with what intent:

Be Thoughtful. Be Positive. Go Forward. Extra Credit? Be Kind along the way.

In other words? Make it GOOD.

#halffull