Bonus Post: Stutter Step

Start the day in the dark, as usual,

Mulling, meditating, praying,

For help, the light, guidance,

Everyday, most everyday the same,

Before I bound into all that awaits,

Setting my mind, trying to, be ready, to get a little more out of myself,

It’s like a Stutter Step, before driving to the basket, breaking to the gap, full gas,

Stutter Step, then into the day.

Lyrics Post: “Lola”

Another one from way back; I think I first heard it in college. I’ve belted it out in sing-a-longs dozens of times. The Kinks brought it to us. What a gift.


I met her in a club down in old Soho
Where you drink champagne and it tastes just like cherry-cola [LP version – Coca-Cola:]
C O L A cola
She walked up to me and she asked me to dance
I asked her her name and in a dark brown voice she said Lola
L O L A Lola la-la-la-la Lola

Well I’m not the world’s most physical guy
But when she squeezed me tight she nearly broke my spine
Oh my Lola la-la-la-la Lola
Well I’m not dumb but I can’t understand
Why she walked like a woman and talked like a man
Oh my Lola la-la-la-la Lola la-la-la-la Lola

Well we drank champagne and danced all night
Under electric candlelight
She picked me up and sat me on her knee
And said little boy won’t you come home with me
Well I’m not the world’s most passionate guy
But when I looked in her eyes well I almost fell for my Lola
La-la-la-la Lola la-la-la-la Lola
Lola la-la-la-la Lola la-la-la-la Lola
I pushed her away
I walked to the door
I fell to the floor
I got down on my knees
Then I looked at her and she at me

Well that’s the way that I want it to stay
And I always want it to be that way for my Lola
La-la-la-la Lola
Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It’s a mixed up muddled up shook up world except for Lola
La-la-la-la Lola

Well I left home just a week before
And I’d never ever kissed a woman before
But Lola smiled and took me by the hand
And said dear boy I’m gonna make you a man

Well I’m not the world’s most masculine man
But I know what I am and I’m glad I’m a man
And so is Lola
La-la-la-la Lola la-la-la-la Lola
Lola la-la-la-la Lola la-la-la-la Lola

Writers: Raymond Douglas Davies

Default: Ponder

I woke up straight out of sleep recently in the dark, 445am. That’s around the usual time during the week I wake up.

I slipped pretty quickly to prayer; it’s a cycle of gratitude, reflection, forgiveness, and good thoughts for others. I do it most mornings to set my head straight to start the day.

It takes a while. But it’s the mindset, the practice that works for me. Ponder, to start each day.

There aren’t a couple of guys that come to mind that are maybe the exact opposite of me in this particular way.

These two guys I follow through posts and podcasts, they are what we could call Alpha Doers. Both are ex-military officers. Extremely accomplished.

Jocko Willink and Stan McChrystal.

They wake up and they immediately DO. At least that’s how it seems from reading about their morning rituals.

Not to say they’re not thinkers. On the contrary. By all accounts they seems to be deep thinkers and very smart. But their “modus operandi” is GO, DO. Seems their heads are straight from the get when they open their eyes.

I’ve heard in various forms Jocko say, “Default; Aggressive.” Military ops, jujitsu, business, life, in all of these, often the preferred mode: get after it.

Would that I could be that way. It’s just not me. My first step isn’t always forward. At least mostly. At least not in that way.

But forward overall? YES. Forward.

Just a little ponder on it all first.

Hmm. More to ponder.

Reflections: Tribe, Time Off…Transitory?

As I wind up a few days with old friends, in a place that I find particularly peaceful and restorative, I reflect,

Just what is it that makes this time so valuable, powerful, desired?

How can I create more of this mindset in my daily life?

How can I make the hustle and bustle of work life and home life and everyday slow, feel more peaceful, more sustainable?

Questions, always questions,

Striving, always striving.

“The Mexicans”

c. 2008

My brothers. Love built over a lifetime of many touches,

Shared experiences,

Periodic, sustained sharing and togetherness,

Sincere respect and appreciation and joy when together,

Together just enough through,

Weddings and children,

Divorce and death,

We’ve supported and sustained and been there uniquely for one another,

Always finding our way back to together.