Change Up

A little like a pitcher to a catcher, right by the batter, WIFF!

My older daughter applied that sorta magic earlier today, when my son was going sideways. It was super to watch, super thankful was I for the magic.

I had run up against it, unable to sway his mood, still looking at a couple hours of work from home, a co-worker waiting for my call.

A change-up, tone, topic, tempo, and he was out of his rut and following her down the hall.

So SO thankful.

On the mound and certainly in life, sometimes the situation you’re in calls for a change-up.

Inspiration Everywhere: Nick Chubb, Running Back, Cleveland Browns Football Team

Baller. Grinder. Fun to watch. Brings it on every down. Inspired player.

Pretty quick, all these thoughts came rushing in when I watched the Cleveland Browns game Sunday night.

Nick Chubb was inspiring, the way he ran. And it came to mind, gotta share that simple thought: be inspired by the simplest of things.

I mean, I’m not a huge sports fan; and in football I’m really a San Francisco Forty Niners fan, having grown up and still living just down the road in San Jose.

But Chubb inspired, so I’m sharing it, it’s that simple. Allow yourself to be inspired.

What’s Fair?

I listen to my kids talk about what’s fair, what they want, what they prefer.

I hear my friends talk about much the same, what’s fair? The problems they have at work, in their marriage, and so on, why isn’t it fair?

Funny thing about fair…

at our best I think we strive for fairness, but shouldn’t expect it; in fact, I think we should expect things not to be fair. We should prepare in such a manner that we are ready when things don’t shake down fairly.

I think that’s the lesson I want my kids to learn. That’s the lesson we all need to learn.

Strive for fair,

Work for fair,

Even insist on fair,

But when it’s not, be ready for that too.

That’s the lesson. Learn it. And then apply it, refine it. Every day.


A Grinder is person that doesn’t give up. A Grinder just keeps at it, no matter the failures, the struggles, the obstacles that present themselves. It’s hard to be a Grinder.

On my best days I think of myself in this way. Actually, that’s not true.

On some of my worst days I think I’m a Grinder. I’ve had some successes for sure, and I live a blessed life, all in all. I have it far better than most. But I’ve also struggled mightily. I’ve had some epic fails. They’ve nearly, silently, gently crushed me.

Lately I’ve been feeling that a lot. A LOT.

But then at some point I get through the dark thoughts, and I shift. And I think, “Ah well, press on, try again, don’t quit, keep going, NEVER GIVE UP.”

It’s like being 0 for 15 from the free-throw line. It’s like being on a ten-game hitting slump. It’s like dropping every pass thrown to you. It’s like coming in dead last. It’s like struggling with algebra, or statics, or the bar exam. It’s like a million different things people struggle with.

The truth is, we all struggle. The other truth is, we all need to be Grinder sometimes. What’s more? If you’re a parent, teach your kids to be the same. It’s a trait that will serve them well throughout their lives.


Courage, Strength, Trust

These traits emerge anew. Found in words from Psalm 33. I discovered the verse via my cousin who lives in western New York. I think I need to read the whole psalm; thanks for the inspiration, cuz.

“Our soul waits for the Lord; he is our help and our shield.” – Psalm 33:20.

So simple; and sometimes easy to feel, and follow; and sometimes so damn hard, so fleeting.

When we can find that trust, that faith, everything else follows; we are stronger, we have more courage, going forward is easier.

Faith and trust, let it be. Let us be stronger too, in that trust. And thus, easier.

Just easier.

Easy Does It

Got some work to do this weekend. Easy does it.

None too happy about going into work on a Saturday, but that’s just how things are right now: short-handed; several challenges across the business. Easy does it.

Once I decided and accepted I was going to work for a few hours over the weekend, well, everything felt a little lighter.

Do what you can. Keep going forward. Easy does it.

Nighttime? Nope, Early Morning

So Many Messages, One Purpose

There are so many ways, so many takes, but in the end just one purpose, I think: EQUALITY.

After 400 years a society, and almost 250 years a country, let it be so: that all people are equal and should be treated as such.

These names come to mind: Tommie Smith, John Carlos, Harry Edwards, Bill Walsh, Al Davis, Phil Woolpert, Horace Stoneham, Colin Kaepernick, Steve Kerr, Kyle Shanahan, Gabe Kapler, Evander Kane,…and…

George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Atatiana Jefferson, Aura Rosser, Stephon Clark, Botham Jean, Philando Castille, Alton Sterling, Michelle Cusseaux, Freddie Gray, Janisha Fonville, Eric Garner, Akai Gurley, Gabriella Nevarez, Tamir Rice, Michael Brown, Tanisha Anderson, to name a few. These names? Those names of African-Americans who have been killed by police officers.

Some of these words on the backs of some NBA players’ jerseys as their teams compete in the playoffs.

“Say Their Names.”

“Love Us.”

Elevate the Voices That Need To Be Heard.

Brown Lives Matter.


“Stand Up.”

“Black Lives Matter.”


Let your elected officials know what you. Let them know they are accountable for making society worse for all people.


Say Their Names:

What Fills the Gap?

Day-to-day doings…busy busy busy. Work to do, kids to raise, chords to tend to, dreams to chase. Busy busy sure, but what fills the gap, the spaces in between?

Sports is one of those things that distracts us, entertains us, inspires us. Or maybe it’s reading, maybe TV, maybe prayer, maybe all of the above?

Whatever it is, let it drive you and inspire you make you better than you would be otherwise.

Learn the lessons, love the dream, cross the line first, be the one who fills the gap with the good, and share it, and live it, and be it.