It’s a leisurely day unfolding. It’s holding two of my favorite people as the early morning light seeps in through the windows. It’s a warm house.
It’s putting things away and sipping hot coffee. It’s a second bowl of oatmeal with brown sugar. It’s my daughter sitting on my lap half telling me a story, half watching a cartoon.
It’s cozy pants and clean teeth and sitting on the kitchen stool. It’s having stuff to do and the time to do it.
It’s another slice of pie because it’s a holiday weekend. It’s being dry and thankful on a rainy day.
It’s right now.
[Disclaimer: After I wrote this piece I did a search on this blog; I wrote another bit with the same title two years back. Must be a common theme often on my mind: How to be happy. How to find bliss. GOOD.]
“Easy to be thankful when things are going well; here’s to being thankful when things don’t go as planned, when things go sideways. Find the lesson, make the best of it, and go forward. Be thankful.”
That sums it up, really. At least for me. It’s proven itself over and over to be the best approach.
Response to great fortune? Be thankful for things working out well for you.
Response to things not going as planned? Be thankful for what can learn from the circumstances.
The happiest people are those that practice gratitude on a regular, even daily basis.
An attitude of gratitude is a fundamental superpower anyone can develop, and if mastered, makes you unstoppable.
Try it for thirty days; go ahead, see how it might improve you perspectives, your daily attitude, your approach to all aspects of your professional and personal life.
And finally, a couple takes on our national holiday, Thanksgiving.
A bit about the roots of the tradition that is a national holiday in the US — though similar traditions exist around the world, for sure — here’s what Wikipedia has to say, in part (with some Wiki-Good links for more related info too):
“The modern Thanksgiving holiday tradition is traced to a well-recorded 1619 event in Virginia and a sparsely documented 1621 celebration at Plymouth in present-day Massachusetts. The 1619 arrival of 38 English settlers at Berkeley Hundred in Charles City County, Virginia, concluded with a religious celebration as dictated by the group’s charter from the London Company, which specifically required “that the day of our ships arrival at the place assigned … in the land of Virginia shall be yearly and perpetually kept holy as a day of thanksgiving to Almighty God.” The 1621 Plymouth feast and thanksgiving was prompted by a good harvest, which the Pilgrims celebrated with Native Americans, who helped them get through the previous winter by giving them food in that time of scarcity.”
And here’s a really good piece written to share a more well-rounded perspective on the truth of our American history.
Consider people in constant pain. Perhaps from a chronic disease; maybe even a terminal disease. Consider the decision patients have to make transitioning from Curative Care to Palliative Care: not trying to cure a condition, but rather manage the pain and suffering.
Then consider not having the medicine to cope with the suffering.
Here’s one short podcast and one organization and some good insight on said topic of pain, and an approach that might do well to duplicate and multiply around the world, where many people don’t have the means to cope with the suffering of chronic pain.
Not sure if I’ve written about this topic before in this forum. If not, it’s high time. If I have, it’s worth revisiting.
Being brave is a core value and characteristic of living a happy and fulfilling life.
If we don’t learn to have courage and be brave, we will struggle with new things, with hard things, throughout our lives.
If we don’t learn to be brave we will not feel good about ourselves. We will be sad more often.
If we don’t learn to be brave our relationships will suffer.
And for kids especially, it’s important to understand…
Courage isn’t about something magical that happens inside us to make us ‘not scared’. It’s about something magical that happens inside us to make us push through fear, self-doubt, anxiety, and do the things that feel hard or risky or frightening.
It means being brave when it’s necessary. It is necessary. Be brave.