Blog Like a Tweet: No Filter. GOOD.

I think that’s one of the main points of this blog.

Unfiltered, honest sharing about life in my little corner of the universe. Nothing fancy, just mine.

It’s 2:57 PM in the afternoon on Saturday as I write this.

After 26 days of Covid in the family and single parenting, the kids went back to their mom to reset some time with her, and catch up after all the delay,

Thanks so much for all the time I had with them, enough of a feel of “solo parent” for me, glad we share the time in a more balanced fashion overall,

And now, it’s time for a little nap on the couch.

How luxurious!

And feels GOOD.


Universal Faith

Like a lot of believers, I’ve got a mixed bag of beliefs and experiences with faith.

I was raised in the Episcopal tradition, but then came of adult age and depth of faith more in the Jesuit-infused Catholic tradition.

I’ve attended church off and on my whole life, frequency influenced by those I’m close to. And since adolescence I’ve turned to faith both to express gratitude for things that go well, and to shepherd me through trying times. So my faith today is still rooted in Christianity, still rooted in my history and heritage. Evolved over time, still deep and fundamental to who, how I am.

About six years back I became and ordained minister in the Universal Life Church*. I took this step after being asked by a couple of close friends if I would officiate their wedding ceremony. I officiated as second wedding this weekend, for my brother-in-law and his (now) wife.

In both instances I have been humbled by the request to officiate, these two couples seeing something in me I’ve long felt a part of my particular person, a sense of the spiritual, a sense of the sacred.

Humbled, Blessed, those are the two words I would use to express my feelings about leading a wedding ceremony. I believe deeply in the soulfulness of that particular Nuptial moment, when two people make a life-time commitment to one another, a public declaration of what they want their life to be with the other.

Yep, Humbled and Blessed.

[*The Universal Life Church Monastery is a multi-religious interfaith ministry that has an online ordination program, which allows individuals to preside over weddings, baptisms, and funerals in the United States depending on state and county laws.]


My brother-in-law is getting married today, a joyous celebration in store.

Delighted that he and his lady have decided to take the next step in their relationship.

They’re a solid couple already. Inspired that they want to take the next step in commitment, in marriage.

Does it matter?

I think it does. I think it can. It declares to the world your intent one to the other, it states your commitment to that singular person, to that relationship,

It also declares the value you put in the other person, and the permanece you seek with them.

Nuptial celebration, joy, bliss, don’t miss the opportunity, take the chance, jump in whole heartedly,


A thousand years of happiness to Jon and Sokcon, GOD BLESS !!!


I can’t really explain it very well. I feel like there’s a LOT going on…

That in some (many?) cases I have to let things fall away…

And sometimes in quite messy form, unfortunately,

And yet I think I’m keeping the main priorities squared away, plates in the air,

And then I wake up, mind spooling up quickly like a turbine,

And I’m awash with anxiety,

In the dark,

At 2 am.

Just saying, just sharing,

Because that’s my way.

And ever more I will go forward,

With the downs and the ups,

The Good and the not so good,

Awash unexpectedly,

But forward all the same.

Come, join me~~~

Pi Day, Redux

Whoops! I let Pi Day almost slip by without comment…ALMOST, that is…

3/14 or “3.14”, what some refer to as Pi Day. One of my neighbors was a Math & Physics major in college…

And a few years back she and her wife hosted a Pi Day Party at their house —it was a mix of friends and generously, they also invited my parents, who lived here in town too.

My dad was a Math and Economics major in college, and High School Math Teacher for decades, so he seemed to get a little extra joy from the theme of the gathering too.

My brother and his wife were there too. Our family, various friends of the hosts.

It was fun.

It was also one of the last “public events” I remember my folks attending before my dad had a stroke at the end of that year, and everything changed.

So a little nod to Pi Day just passed, nod to my dad once again – Math Guy, GREAT Dad – and a little encouragement to all y’all out there to find things and reasons to get together with the people you love and celebrate whatever…celebrate life!,

You never know when it is going to change. So make the most of right now.

Oh, and more on Pi Day? HERE ~~~

Flow State

In many facets of life, find the flow state,

Find harmony,

Find peace.

Don’t need many words, works to get there,

And when you do,


Not sure how, not sure the definition,

Especially as a parent, especially as a single parent,

How to find that groove, flow,

But when you do, even just a glimpse,

Moves you forward, aware, appreciative, glad,

In that space, mindset, BLISS.

3/12, BHL

Would have been my old man’s 86th birthday.

He departed four years back.

Lives on in my mind, our hearts, memories,

When I’m trying to solve math problems at work, logic questions,

When I think about fishing, or the great outdoors over all. Or basketball, or hockey, or tennis, or golf,

Every day I live as a parent I think, “What would Howie do?”

Or jazz music, peanut butter tortilla roll-ups, charcoal BBQ, Scotch,