Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

Serendipitous topic, “relationship”, boundaries therein. Nearly six decades in and two marriages down, you might think I would have another answer about relationships…

But I think I can say that while my romantic / matrimonial record isn’t great. I’m certain I am better off in my life because of the many relationships that I have had, and still do. In fact, I maintain that relationship is the cornerstone of my life experience, certainly one of the top guiding lights.

Here are a few thoughts briefly about boundaries in relationship; and really this is for any relationship, not just intimate, not just romantic, but relationships overall.

I’m glad that this prompt includes the idea of boundaries, because that’s super important to understand; it’s something I have only learned through much struggle and difficulty. And I’m still learning, right up to this moment as I scribble away.

Realize what stuff you own in any relationship, what you can control, and then what the other person‘s part is.

Also, don’t assume you need to react with overt emotion to everything that happens.

Especially in business and professional relationships, build your base on facts and actions at face value; don’t read into things too much. If you need clarification, don’t assume; ask.

Don’t hijack people’s feelings and reactions; let them play out, respond as much as you’re able and willing to do so.

It’s nice to support, and even sacrifice, but don’t give your whole self away in the process; relationship means two people in concert together, to whatever degree they can manage in the moment, and overall.

Keep reaching out with good will. You’ll be a better person and have better relationships as a result.