I want to get my work done; I don’t want to be a slave to the job.

I want dinner to go smoothly with the kids; I don’t want to crack the whip to keep them on track.

I want the kids to play by themselves; I don’t want to listen to the ruckus.

I want my old dog to keep living; I don’t want her to suffer.

I want to read more; I don’t want to stay awake.

I don’t want to be wound up with anxiety; I want to remain deeply engaged with life.

I want it both ways.