When a buddy of mine and his wife had their kids about ten years back, my friend told me about this book by Meg Meeker, an MD that’s done a lot of work with kids. He said it gave him a lot of good insights with parenting his daughter.
So when my wife and I had our first kid about four years ago, a daughter, I bought the book via Amazon (as soon as she was born!). “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters”, is a great reference with simple, easy to understand ideas with lots of good examples from Meeker’s practice.
Following are some of my favorite quotes. Enjoy. And if you’re a dad and you have daughters, READ IMMEDIATELY.
“Dad, it’s not optional: your daughter needs you to be her hero.”
“If you don’t give guidance to your daughter, she’ll come up with answers of her own—which means your authority will be replaced by someone else’s.”
“Pride excites us to take too much pleasure in ourselves, does not encourage us to take pleasure in our humanity, and what is commonly shared by all of us as social beings.”
“Real love is gritty. It sweats and waits, it causes you to hold your tongue when you want to scream obscenities in anger, and it causes many men to accomplish extraordinary feats.” [This goes for how you love your daughter, but also what you teach her ABOUT love, so she has a frame of reference.]
“Humility prevents bullying and being bullied. When your daughter recognizes that all humans have equal value and never esteems herself above another, she doesn’t worry about asserting her superiority or take seriously a bully’s taunts. She knows that our worth is not in what we do, what we have, or what we are capable of being, but in the fact that we are human.”
“At the beginning of her life, she will feel your love. At the end of her life, you will be on her mind. And what happens in between is up to you. Love her extra-ordinarily. This is the heart of great fathering.”
“All it requires is that you be a man, a real man, which means a man of courage, perseverance, and integrity. You were made a man for a reason. You were made a man to be a strong, loving husband and father. So listen to your instincts, and do what’s right. Be a hero.”