Stricken with selfishness, how to respond?

Seems to me most often the choice is clear: put the selfishness aside and be for others.

Some (many?) might say, “You’re not responsible for other people’s happiness!”, and “Don’t be a pleaser, it’s not what you’re supposed to be…!”,

But I say,

Be for others,

Help others,

Lift others,

And so everyone is better off,

GOOD.