Spool Up, Down

Ramped up yesterday early, before the sun was up, a good start to a busy Friday ahead, ready to get a bunch moving forward, and then…

Things went sideways was tue kids started waking up and getting ready for school…

The youngest, spooled up herself, and not in a good way; she went from neutral to not; so much so was she spun that she quickly froze up, stuck, emotionally frazzled.

I knew in an instant what I had to do.

It meant a dramatic change of course; my plan for a productive work day vaporized.

I called the school and told them my daughter was going to be absent for the day; I let my boss know I’d be off line do to a family situ.

And then we stopped in our tracks. The screaming and the tears subsided.

Our neighbor took the other two kids to school. My youngest went back to bed, the only place she seems to find solace.

Spooled down.

A little later in the morning she got up again; she got dressed of her own accord, had some toast. We talked about what had happened; she shared her thoughts, great insights on what she was feeling.

I’m not sure I’m able to divert the next episode that might come up for her, but I’ve got more ideas about how to try to help her.

And the sky didn’t fall. We made it through the day. It wasn’t the way we’d planned, but we made it thought.

Up or down, go forward, ever forward.



“On the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month”, the major Western powers who had been at war for four years, called an armistice; the day the “war to end all wars” was paused, and hostilities soon ended. World War I. More than 8 million combatants perished; more than 11 million civilians also died in during that war.

There had certainly been war between armies in the past; there have been several major wars since WWI as well; nothing on that scale of that first so-called world war; but then, any lose of human life is tragic, and especially on a mass scale.

Maybe part of the purpose of Armistice Day, of Veterans Day, is to honor and remember those who served, BUT ALSO,

Maybe the purpose be reminded that we as humans in society should always look for alternatives to violence to resolve our differences; between countries, between peoples, and within our communities.

Violence is never the final solution; let’s avoid it all together.

“Inspire Change”

National Football League teams. Seen on the back of football helmets at the base:

“Inspire Change” ~ a simple, powerful message. What does it speak to? So many different topics that this phrase might apply to:

In business,

In society,

In politics,


I’d only add the implied, additional clarifying word:

Inspire POSITIVE Change~


One day at a time, one circumstance at a time, make the effort when given the chance. Maybe even create the chance.



Blog Like A Tweet/P.S.A: Get Vaxxed

Gotta say, so proud of these three, my kids. Not the youngest on the list: they’re 10, 9, 7. But so SO proud.

Rallied up for the Covid Vax, seemed to understand the importance, important to build immunity, important to stay safe.

Rallied up, got the jab, crying kids around us, but not these three; thou’ a little anxious, scared maybe, rallied up all the same,

So proud so proud~



Default: Ponder

I woke up straight out of sleep recently in the dark, 445am. That’s around the usual time during the week I wake up.

I slipped pretty quickly to prayer; it’s a cycle of gratitude, reflection, forgiveness, and good thoughts for others. I do it most mornings to set my head straight to start the day.

It takes a while. But it’s the mindset, the practice that works for me. Ponder, to start each day.

There aren’t a couple of guys that come to mind that are maybe the exact opposite of me in this particular way.

These two guys I follow through posts and podcasts, they are what we could call Alpha Doers. Both are ex-military officers. Extremely accomplished.

Jocko Willink and Stan McChrystal.

They wake up and they immediately DO. At least that’s how it seems from reading about their morning rituals.

Not to say they’re not thinkers. On the contrary. By all accounts they seems to be deep thinkers and very smart. But their “modus operandi” is GO, DO. Seems their heads are straight from the get when they open their eyes.

I’ve heard in various forms Jocko say, “Default; Aggressive.” Military ops, jujitsu, business, life, in all of these, often the preferred mode: get after it.

Would that I could be that way. It’s just not me. My first step isn’t always forward. At least mostly. At least not in that way.

But forward overall? YES. Forward.

Just a little ponder on it all first.

Hmm. More to ponder.

The Elder, My Daughter / Partner

A fresh idea came to mind recently; I think it might have some momentum.

Elevate her, it helps us both.

Listening. Enjoying. Engaging.

In this new family model, we sure benefit from better cooperation and teamwork. Easier all around with everyone aligned.

Giving it a try, anyway.

It’s a new approach, expanded mindset on my part: how I relate and cooperate, to better accommodate our oldest, and better support the whole family.


Lyrics Post: “Fight The Good Fight”

Nearly a lifetime ago I first heard this song. From then until now it sustains me, it pulls me up, it pushes me forward, thank you, Triumph.

The days grow shorter and the nights are getting long
Feels like we’re running out of time
Every day it seems much harder tellin’ right from wrong
You got to read between the lines

Don’t get discouraged, don’t be afraid, we can
Make it through another day
Make it worth the price we pay 

The Good Book says it’s better to give than to receive
I do my best to do my part
Nothin’ in my pockets I got nothin’ up my sleeve
I keep my magic in my heart 

Keep up your spirit, keep up your faith, baby
I am counting on you
You know what you’ve got to do 

Fight the good fight every moment
Every minute every day
Fight the good fight every moment
It’s your only way 

All your life you’ve been waiting for your chance
Where you’ll fit into the plan
But you’re the master of your own destiny
So give and take the best that you can 

You think a little more money will buy your soul some rest
You’d better think of something else instead
You’re so afraid of being honest with yourself
You’d better take a look inside your head 

Nothing is easy, nothing good is free
But I can tell you where to start
Take a look inside your heart
There’s an answer in your heart 

Fight the good fight every moment
Every minute every day
Fight the good fight every moment
Make it worth the price we pay

Every moment of your lifetime
Every minute every day
Fight the good fight every moment
Make it worth the price we pay