Gradual, Acceptance

Gradually it gets easier. Maybe that’s big picture conventional wisdom.

Over time, if you stay at something, you’re bound to get better; the work is bound to get easier. Not sure about timelines; it depends on the topic, the matter at hand, the activities you’re engaged in, the skills you’re developing.

There’s the “10,000 hour rule” — it says you can be a master after 10,000 hours of practice. I’ve also read that rule’s been debunked a couple of times.

I still believe that with time and effort, we are able to improve.

I wrote recently about being a Grinder.

I find myself smack-dab in the middle of that situation just now. On at least a couple levels. And it’s been a struggle, getting more acute and glaring and challenging as the weeks have ticked by. Mind you too, this is after an introductory level of activity of said tasks for a couple years. But now the pace, scope, and expectations have come together at a steep pitch.

My mentality is super-critical to my sanity right now. I find myself pausing to take deep breaths repeatedly throughout the day. And forcing myself to pause in the struggle to consider the big picture. I’m making forward progress on multiple fronts, even as many more fronts are left un-attended, waiting, expecting. That expecting is maybe the most challenging aspect.

I know others are relying on my efforts. And I can only do so much each day. I could work 12-hour days and the list would still be long, stretched out the door.

So I’m trying different approaches to the core activities I need to complete. And I’m keeping after it. And it’s hard. Sometimes it’s really hard.

And then I accept it. I accept the situation again. And go forward.

Today I accepted the fact that I’m going to work another weekend. I’m going to be on-site for a few hours Saturday. And then I’m going to wade through more work from home on Sunday.

And I’m going forward. Gradually. But I’m going forward.

What’s that word I use so often?

GOOD. Make it so.

Go Fish

A game from the past. Brought to present. These two love it.

“The dining table light shines down like even Heaven approves of this timeless card game”

Simple. Fun. Interaction. No screens. Bonus.

Matching cards. Counting. Friendly banter.

Over and over. Go Fish.

Thankful for this holiday weekend and some extra time to be a dad, and more time at home with the family. Maybe a walk, maybe some LEGO play – they’ve been into this a lot lately – and a few hands of Go Fish with the kids.

“Do you have any 8?

Nope. GO FISH.”

“Man of the Cloth…

…without the cloth. “ This idea, this image, from the sci-fi film “Contact”, Matthew McConaughey’s character explains himself this way…

…and it resonated with me then, and it resonates with me now.

Most of my life I’ve felt a sense of personal relationship with God, the Devine, somehow, someway. But I’m no priest, no minister, no mystic…I’m just a guy. I’m just a guy going though life. I’m a dad trying to do right by my kids.

I’m just a guy trying to do right I’m the world, with those around me. I’m just a guy feeling God is right here with us, right now.

I read scripture and sometimes it just resonates, it seems to transcend the hundreds, maybe thousands of years since it was written. Like this, “… and he is not God of the dead, but of the living, for to him all are alive.”

I don’t need a special cloth to understand some of it, maybe a lot of it. Let it speak to you. You might be the same.

The Pace

The pace, the race, what does it all mean? What’s the intent, the destination, when does it end?

Put ourselves into these conditions, circumstances, situations, often chosen, sometimes not.

The very reason, purpose, to move forward, go forward, live, be, do. We only get one go, make the most, mostly in, ready. But times not, and then what? The angst, the pit, it uncertainty, certainly difficult at times.

The pace sometimes a bit too quick, unexpected; or maybe it’s the anticipated, what’s expected, that’s the cause. Don’t fear the pace, it has its place.

And so, Live, Be, Do, how about you? Why are you in, here? It’s the very purpose, intent, be intentional, much we can do, so let’s do.

Do It Anyway

I’ve thought a lot lately about anxiety, worry, and fear. In fact, it’s been a topic I return again and again to most all of my life.

I wonder how to respond, cope, battle, persevere through these feelings; to not let them consume, devour, destroy; instead, to transcend.

I’ve lived with these emotions the whole of my life; at different times, different levels, and different powers, these feelings have had.

In the end we can’t let them win; we have to thrive anyway. Thrive, and Live.

Each day. Forward. Live.

Do What You Can Do

Two examples here I’d like to share. Two men who believe in taking care of the planet: Doing the right things around that every day.

The first guy I know; he’s family. He’s a dad and a public servant and a bike rider and an outdoorsman.

And he picks up the trash when he’s out in nature as well.

This next guy I know only by what I read and podcasts I’ve listened to. Similarly, this guy is a dad, public servant, and outdoorsman.

And he picks up the trash when he’s out in nature as well.

Inspiration Everywhere

I might have used that title before, not sure. Regardless, it should probably be a regular reference to posts on this site. After all, I seem to be forever inspired by things around me, events that transpire that are positive and uplifting.

In these COVID pandemic times, when America (and other countries too) are in societal turmoil, finding the good and sharing it, well…that’s fundamental to survival!

So here are a couple from the last few days, each a (maybe) unexpected victory for different athletes in different sports, getting the win and thus lifting themselves, and their careers, to another, higher level. Great for them of course, but great for others too, if you allow yourself to seep into their stories a bit, and be inspired.

The life lessons are timeless: Keep Going, Keep Working, Keep Striving —

From Agence France Presse, PARIS – “Polish teenager Iga Swiatek won her country’s first-ever Grand Slam singles title on Saturday as she defeated American fourth seed Sofia Kenin 6-4, 6-1 to become the youngest women’s French Open champion since 1992.

The 19-year-old Swiatek, at 54 the second-lowest ranked women’s Roland Garros finalist in the modern era, is the ninth first-time major champion in the past 14 Grand Slams.

The 19-year-old Swiatek, at 54 the second-lowest ranked women’s Roland Garros [French Open] finalist in the modern era, is the ninth first-time major champion in the past 14 Grand Slams.”

Iga Swiatek, French Open Champion 2020

From the Telegraph, UK – “Alex Dowsett solos to superb stage win at Giro d’Italia…It gave the Israel Start-Up Nation rider his second career Giro stage win, seven years after his success on the stage eight time trial of the 2013 edition, and a first grand tour victory for his young team. ‘He’s done it. Alex Dowsett, one of the nicest riders you could ever have the pleasure to meet, has won stage eight at the Giro d’Italia. The Israel Start-up Nation ​rider finished the stage 1min 15sec ahead of Salvatore Puccio (Ineos Grenadiers) who pipped another Briton, Matthew Holmes (Lotto-Soudal), to the line to take second.'”

Alex Dowsett, Stage 8 Winner, Giro d’ Italia 2020

Inspiration everywhere, everyday. And it doesn’t have to be athletes’ victories on the world stage. It can be your next-door neighbor waving ‘Hello’, a work colleague’s success, a friend’s triumph.

Find it. Share it. GOOD

‘‘Tis the Season

‘Tis the Season, a playful way, to talk about a certain day, a certain way to be, to think, to be, most often ‘round Christmas we might hear it, say.

But another time comes to mind, a thoughtful stint of when we might find,

better insight as to how we might be, better for you, better for me.

A time to remember and honor those who have gone, of those whom we’ve loved, over, above,

And not just the times and the way we felt, but the power and the magic within us has dwelt,

And still there today, each and every day, if we think, and believe it’s within us, and for us, and is us, felt in a blink.

On Track

How do you stay on track?

Time is the obvious reference. How long does it take to complete a task? How much time do you have?

That’s the guide we might often use. Our gauge to “percentage completed.” And then when we fall behind, we go back and consider…

What can I do differently to get back on track? The assumption is, if you’re behind your targeted timeline, you’re “off track.”

But maybe this isn’t the sole measure. Maybe it’s not the most meaningful way to evaluate.

A good basic question is, “What’s your plan to get your work done?”

But even before that, and then regularly after ask,

What is the work I’m doing? And where does it fit into my life? And how can I balance all the work I want to accomplish, and not fore-sake one?

All good questions. All might give a good indication of you’re really on-track. And more than that, if you’re in balance.